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How This Obesity Rebel Solves Her Vitamin Compliancy Issues

With Summer quickly approaching, it’s time to take a break from my recent blog series “Sex Love and Obesity” and talk about something that this Obesity Rebel just really thinks you need to know exists.

Vitamins delivered in the form of Watermelon goodness.

Let me tell you something about me. My name is Pandora, I’m an RNY Gastric bypass patient and while I am supposed to take my vitamins on a regular basis to avoid malnutrition issues, I don’t.

Why? Because I don’t like taking pills. It’s not just vitamins, it’s anything that comes in pill form. It takes a ridiculous amount of pain to get me to take pain pills doctors prescribe to me after surgery. I’m that person who never finishes a prescription for antibiotics after I start to feel better. It takes a headache that would lay King Kong down to get me to reach for a bottle of Tylenol.

My genuine dislike for all things in pill form have made vitamin compliancy after weight loss surgery a continual struggle for me.

Until last year when BariLife came out with their Lemonade Multivitamin Powder.

I know what you are thinking. “Oh, BariLife is sending her to Paris and now she is talking up their products.”

Ok. I’m honest, there is some validity to that, I’m not going to lie. But BariLife wasn’t sending me to Paris last May when this product came out and I started using it.

I started using it because knowing I have vitamin compliancy issues from working with me in the past, they sent me a sample to try, and I kept using it because it has been a way for this non-pill taking post-operative patient to take her vitamins!

I know, I know, there are chewable vitamins and there are gummies.

Here’s my issue with those: Most chewable vitamins taste like vitamins, taste like chalk or taste like, what I imagine, based on his breath and the fact that he is constantly licking himself, a dog’s derriere. The Gummies add calories to my day that I’m not willing to spend on vitamins that taste like candy.

While vitamin compliancy after weight loss surgery has been an issue for me. I do drink my water daily.  In fact, I drink half my body weight in ounces of water each day. But, I don’t LOVE plain water. I often use sugar-free drink additives like crystal light and those cool little bottles of fruity goodness that let you add a few drops to make your water taste like anything you want. My favorite just happens to be the watermelon lemonade flavor.

Earlier this month BariLife sent me a sample of the new Watermelon Multivitamin Powder – and let me just say, this watermelon-lemonade loving Pandora is in heaven.

On their own, both the Lemonade and the Watermelon multivitamin powders are amazing products and a great way for someone like me that has issues with pills, chewables or gummies to get their vitamins in. They both have a great flavor, and you really do not taste the vitamins in your drink at all when you use them.

But if you asked me, the “Holy Rusted Metal Batman!”, POW!” comes from mixing them both together.

Each product calls for 2 scoops of powder per day. You’re supposed to use one scoop at a time twice a day. But, I take a half a scoop of each, put it in a blender bottle with ice cubes, shake it up and mix them together. Then I’ve got a Watermelon Lemonade flavored drink that I’d gladly sip on any hot summer day. This little concoction of mine has me taking my vitamins without even trying because I enjoy drinking it so much!

If you haven’t tried the Multivitamin Powders from BariLife yet, you can find them here.

BariLife Lemonade Multivitamin Powder

BariLife – Multivitamin Powder – Lemonade

BariLife Watermelon Multivitamin Powered

BariLife – Multivitamin Powered – Watermelon

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Pandora Williams author of Desperately Seeking Slender is an ISSA Certified Personal Trainer and Cooper Institute Approved Wellness Coach Trained in Weight Management Strategies. Her training and coaching services are offered exclusively through GoGirl Fitness Studio.

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Sex Love and Obesity Part 5

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 4 we discussed the emotional end of my marriage. How I was about to move on and how I confident that having lost all that weight I would have no problem finding happiness with someone else.

Losing weight isn’t a magic “life is great!” pill.

Shocking isn’t it? I’d spent the better part of my adult life suffering from obesity and I was 100% sure it was going to fix all my issues.

My marriage was pretty much over. Whether we were admitting it out loud of not yet, we were both exploring our options outside of the relationship on a regular basis. I guess you could say that we had decided to have an open marriage.

My father had passed away and I was struggling with dealing with the grief. In my mind I had lost the only man in the world that was ever going to unconditionally love me. Losing that unconditional love made me want romantic love even more. I wanted my happily ever after. I wanted that person in my life that I could count on to be there no matter what life brought next.

In the book about my life, the next few chapters would be called “Chasing November”

I have no idea why, but November seems to be a significant month for me regarding relationships.

In November of 2011 after a long talk with my husband, I decided to try to compensate for what I wasn’t getting out of the marriage, sex, attention, companionship, by adding a third person to our household.

So, in November of 2011 I invited an “online friend,” to come for a visit.

The first visit was wonderful. Everything about the relationship was new and exciting and perfect. We spent about 2 weeks together and I was certain that adding a second relationship to my life would make me happy. I’d get what I wanted and needed out of a relationship physically and emotionally and at the same time, my marriage could go on being what it had already been for the better part of the last 8 years. I’d continue being the submissive house slave that made sure the house was clean, the laundry was done, and all the bills were getting paid on time, and maybe, just maybe, I wouldn’t resent it all so much if I had someone else that was making feel fulfilled.

I know it sounds crazy, but remember, I’d basically grown up in a BDSM related community. I’d seen these types of arrangements since I was 19 years old. To me, it made perfect sense.

In my mind adding a third person to the relationship would be a win/win situation all the way around. We’d be helping someone else get out of a living situation they wanted out of and putting a band-aid on our own problems at the same time.

All three of us were struggling financially. I was about to start a year-long process of reconstructive surgery to remove all the excess skin left after losing 260 lbs. We couldn’t afford for my husband to take time off work to be with me recovering from those surgeries. So, we decided to move someone to Oregon, put a roof over their head, and give them a chance to rebuild their life while helping me recover from my surgeries and see if there was any validity to the “Three’s Company” lifestyle.

My reconstructive surgeries happened in February, August, and then November. I blame a little of the failure of that relationship attempt on the fact that they were always taking care of me.

I blame some of it on the level of resentment that existed in the house. It created a level of tension in the house that just never faded.

I blame part of it on the fact that truthfully, it wasn’t what I wanted. I didn’t really want an open marriage or an open relationship. I didn’t want to be with people who were willing to share me, my affection or attention with each other, or anyone else for that matter. It wasn’t who I was or how I was built.

I was still making compromises. I still didn’t value myself enough to stand up and say, “Hey this isn’t what I want,” because I didn’t think I was worthy enough to have what I really wanted.

But I blame most of it on the fact that we argued constantly and that somehow a combination of all of that had me in another sexless relationship.

Basically that “November Magic” never appeared again.

We fought the way my family had fought with each other when I was growing up. We fought the way my mother and I had fought with each other for most of my life.

Our arguments turned into full-blown fights that escalated to the point that they became toxic and volatile. We said cruel things to each other.

Since that magic wasn’t there, neither was the attention, affection and in my mind, the love, that I was so desperately searching for. Which just lead me right back into a feeling that I obviously don’t handle very well – resentment.

A year into the situation, I was sitting there thinking, “We pay for everything for you. You haven’t had to work for a year. You have absolutely everything you could want. We moved you and your things here, we furnished your room, we pay for all your food,” and I resented that after doing all of that for someone else, I was repaid with an argumentative and unappreciative attitude. But even more I resented that the fulfillment aspect of the relationship, the love I was seeking through physicality and sexuality wasn’t there.

Don’t get me wrong, every situation has a silver lining. There were some good moments. Looking back on it 7 years later it’s hard for me to remember what they were. We I traveled a lot. We went to conventions, we visited friends and family together. But usually, no matter what we were doing we ended up in a fight and I hadn’t learned that constant conflict like that was an issue for me.

It’s not that I enjoy fighting. I don’t. But I don’t know how to disengage from an argument. I don’t know how to stop. Once it starts I’m instantly in that self-defensive mode I learned to constantly live in during my childhood and it brings out ugly parts of me.

I do better in relationships with people who are non-confrontational. People who can have very calm and rational discussions rather than arguments. People who help keep me cool and grounded with their tone and demeanor.

These are things I didn’t know about myself yet.

A dysfunctional family, a childhood of arguing, a history of emotional, physical, sexual and verbal abuse had all lead me to Obesity. I knew that. But I didn’t realize that I used food as a way of coping with feelings that were associated with them.

I was married to someone who was non-confrontational. He never raised his voice, we never argued. Even when things got heated, we had “discussions” not “disagreements.” We had been married for going on nine years and I could count the number of “fights” we’d had on one hand. Suddenly I was in a relationship were we fought constantly, and I’d hadn’t had to deal with the kinds of emotions that brought with it in any relationship before.

But when faced with them in a new relationship I quickly found that I was at a handicap. Because when I made the decision to have gastric bypass surgery and essentially ended the relationship I had with food and my ability to use it as a coping mechanism for emotions I didn’t know how to do deal with, I didn’t really have a coping mechanism left.

I had learned how to use exercise as an emotional outlet. But I was in the middle of the reconstructive surgery processes and each surgery would leave me unable to exercise for 6-12 weeks during the recovery time. So that outlet wasn’t available to me either.

Nobody had prepared me for this. Nobody had warned me how not having food as a coping mechanism might change my ability to deal with emotions and feelings. Nobody warned me that ending my relationship with food could dramatically change how I had relationships with other people.

Nobody had prepared me for the fact that once I lost all the weight I might still find myself in relationships with people who didn’t find sex as important as I did. In my mind, once I lost all the weight and had all the reconstructive surgery to remove the skin, I’d be super attractive for the first time in my life and finding someone who wanted to have an amazing and active sex life would be easy.

Nobody warned me losing weight wasn’t a magic “life is great” pill. I was learning that lesson very quickly though, I just had no idea what to do about it.

Stay tuned for Sex Love and Obesity Part 6 – Finding the “U” in Weight Loss

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Pandora Williams author of Desperately Seeking Slender is an ISSA Certified Personal Trainer and Cooper Institute Approved Wellness Coach Trained in Weight Management Strategies. Her training and coaching services are offered exclusively through GoGirl Fitness Studio.
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