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My Third Christmas Post Weight Loss Surgery

I feel like I have so many things to do and catch up on, especially in the online world, that I am starting to panic that I’m “playing” too much.

f908a804500e11e28a5622000a1fbe35_6It’s nearly 10pm on December 26th, the day after Christmas when life begins to return to “normal” and the end of the Holiday season approaches. I had a couple really rough days leading up to Christmas. Murphy’s Law got me again and I was lucky enough to manage to get the Flu for literally the first time in my adult life while trying to recover from a thigh lift. Talk about a double whammy.

I am just starting to feel human again after having the good luck of coming down with the flu for the first time in my adult life while recovering from my thigh lift, and so I decided to start playing catch up in the online universe tonight and began downloading my email. Because catching up on my email will take HOURS less than catching up on Facebook or Twitter.

2beautiful-blogger21I was nominated for The Beautiful Blogger Award by Jessica at Bariatric Beginning. I’m very honored to have been nominated for this award and I am going to accept it and do all the things that the award require that I do… but it’s going to have to wait until I have gotten caught up. Jessica, thank you so much for the nomination and the kind words that you had to say about me. Having readers like you that do stuff like this for me is the reason I keep blogging.

So we had a really nice Christmas. Christmas at my house is always a big deal even when there are only a few of us here. I think it comes from my being deprived Christmases all during my childhood, it’s my favorite time of year and we always have a really nice Christmas if there is anyway we can make that happen. This year was the first year since Heather moved in and I really wanted it to be super special for her.

Now what sucked was that I came down with the flu the Thursday before Christmas and it was bad. I’ve never had the flu before, I can say this with certainty now. But let me tell you, recovering from a reconstructive thigh lift and getting the flu on top of it, where your entire body is suddenly achy, it is about as high on my to do list as jumping off the top of a ten story building. Now add-on to that running a 102 fever, going from hot to cold, oh but the best, the best was when the shivers set in, and suddenly my whole body, slit up, stitched up thighs and all were trembling uncontrollably, which causes all your achy muscles to tighten, and… yeah let’s just say that if you ever have the option to NOT get the flu while recovering from a thigh lift, take it.

After a visit to my PCP and my Surgeon on the 21st which would be 3 weeks and 2 days Post Op she said that there was still a bit of swelling, she took the drain out of my left side but left the right side in and said that there was a little redness that COULD be the start of an infection, so she put me on another weeks worth of antibiotics just to be certain and I’m due to see her again in a couple of days. With the flu kicking my butt I pretty much slept from Friday to Christmas without really noticing the time passing by.

By Christmas Eve, thankfully, the worst of the flu had passed. We had a great time opening presents and my loot included …



  • Guild Wars 2 ( PC ) – This game will keep me busy for the better part of  year+ once I start playing it. I played the first one for nearly two years before I got bored with it.
  • Rise of the Guardians ( Wii )
  • Skylander Giants ( Wii ) ( I got lots of little figures too! )
  • Your Shape Fitness Evolved 2013 ( Wii )



Fun Stuff:

  • A Tinkerbell mouth rinse up for the bathroom 🙂 – I love Tinkerbell
  • Warm & Cozy Microwaveable aroma therapy stuffed animal and scarf. – A cute way to stay warm when you find yourself freezing after weight loss surgery!
  • Plantronics Bluetooth Earbuds – They let you listen to music, take calls, hear all your running app stuff and NOT get your arms tangled on cords. I’ll be writing a review!
  • Pandora Jewelry – I got one new charm and two new clips for my Pandora bracelets.
  • Oval Jewelry Box – I’ve had little wood square jewelry box for about 9 years, now I have a pretty oval, 5 drawer, side opening fancy, grown up jewelry box!


  • Warn Cozy Jammies – I got three pairs of fleece ones and one really nice pair of like super warm gray ones where the top is a jacket! I’ve had one pair of warm PJs since I lost weight and those were last years Christmas Jammies and were a size 1X. These were all women’s size medium and large 🙂
  • Running Wear – I got some fitness wear two shirts, two 2nd layer hoodies and one pair of Capri pants to match them all and a purple heavier sweatshirt, all ventilated, all great for running! I can’t wait to try them out when they let me back on the pavement. Oh I also got my FIRST ever running tank top! It goes with all the other stuff color wise, but I’ve never worn a tank top to exercise before. ( remember I’ve spent a year doing plastics ) so this was an exciting first for me!967a6f60500e11e2ae8022000a9e2946_6
  • Scarfs – I got two really nice scarves, one black with stars and one sort of multi colored one. I am sure you will see them in lots of pictures to come!
  • Speedo Bathing Suit – Well I said I would go back to swimming at the gym after I got my thighs done and now I’m gonna be held to it. my new size 8 speedo bath suit sort of demands I live up to that promise. So soon a the doc says I can exercise in a public pool again, I’m there.
  • Robe – So I haven’t bought a new robe since I lost weight. My robe currently is the green one I was wearing after my gastric bypass at the hospital. It will be retired now, because I got a gorgeous black and leopard print warm fuzzy new robe under the tree!
  • Socks – Socks are a Christmas tradition in my family. One of the only two that I can clearly remember before my Mother decided that we were going to become Jehovah Witnesses when I was 5 and I never got Christmas again until I was an adult. Socks, you always get socks for Christmas, socks and an orange in your stocking.

I’m feeling a lot better these days, mostly sitting in the recliner, keeping my legs elevated and trying to get the swelling in my thighs to go down. I haven’t felt up to going back to work yet, and that only drains more and more out of our savings each week I am out, so I’m eager to get back, for now, I’m resting, like they keep telling me that I should, drifting in and out of consciousness and letting my body heal. As I finally finish this blog it’s nearly 3am and I’ve been dozing in and out, writing in between naps in those brief moments when I’m awake and watching HJ play Zombie U .. Go team not corpses.


Woman Emotionally Assaulted by PCP over having Gastric Bypass

I want to bring some attention to this story….

I am not usually the type to call someone out in public, it is not usually my style. But I have a friend in the WLS community whom I will not name at this time because I do not have her expressed permission to do so. But I got a note from her on Facebook today asking me to go read a post that she had written on a group I am not a member of. She was very upset, when I finally read the post I understood why.

“Not having a good today. I have been so upset and crying all day because I went to a new primary care doctor today (that my mom has seen for years), since I don’t have one and my GBS surgeon has moved to another state, and I could barely hold the tears back to get out of his office and to my car. I went to him today to talk to him about taking over my pain management care for the broken bone in my back and my post GBS care to do all of my yearly labs and treat my ulcer pain I am having once again because of a new muscle relaxer that my horrible pain management dr. has put me on. I have never been so hurt emotionally by a “physician” in all of my life! My whole visit was NOT about my health and my care. It was about him degrading me for needing pain management for the broken bone in my back and degrading me even more because I had GBS.  I am so hurt at that man! For someone who is supposed to be a physician and taking care of my health, he sure hurt me emotionally! Every problem I told him I have since my GBS, such as anemia, ulcers, dangerously high calcium deficiency, he mocked me and offered no help or solution. He disregarded my pain management and told me point blank that I had a dr, (which I told him I was not happy with and is why I was coming to him) and he would not get involved and that his office could have told me he does not do pain management if I had asked, which I did! I even asked his nurse point blank if he does pain management when she took me to the exam room AND it was also on my paperwork that I filled out and mailed in two weeks ago! Then proceeded to tell me that he was NOT a fan of GBS in a very nasty voice and that I had parts of my body cut on that were not the problem and I should have had emotional treatment instead of GBS for morbid obesity! I tried to reason with him for a few minutes and realized that it would get me nowhere, so I finally told him that I was thankful I had GBS because it literally saved my life and that I realize there are other underlying issues associated with morbid obesity, but some of the components are also genetic, and that I could argue with him all day, but it would probably not change his nor my opinion on the matter, and if he was to the point of being in a wheelchair, not able to walk, not able to drive, and wondered every time he went to sleep if he would wake up or leave his children without a dad due to sleep apnea and other co-morbidities, he would have made the choice I made too! I told him I am thankful that I am alive and I will be able to watch my grandbaby grow up!!! At that point, he stood up and sorta stomped his foot, as if to gesture our visit was over, and he handed me a prescription slip for an acid reducer, which I had bought over the counter at Dollar General last night and a high dose of steroid. When I told him I wanted Carafate to heal my ulcer, he stated that I just needed the antacid. I told him that I had bought the antacid at Dollar General last night and it does not CURE my ulcer once I get it, it’s only a preventative medicine BEFORE the ulcer forms, and he informed me that it was for the prescription strength of the antacid and he gave me a lab slip with $400 worth of labs ordered and walked out. I sat there for a few minutes wondering if I should even pay for this visit, which I did not really have the money for, but I decided that I was taught better than that and I got myself together and went to the checkout window and I paid the lady $100 and told her I would not be getting the labs done! I could barely talk to the lady because I was fighting back tears. I could have just walked out and not paid for that visit, what could they have done??? The door was right there, but I choice to do the thing that my conscious could live with. I think I will write this dr an informative letter and let me know exactly how I feel about the way he treated me and the things he said to me and how I felt after leaving his office. I am so upset…….I am on the verge of tears every time I think about the way I was treated today because I had to have GBS to save my life.”

I am absolutely appalled by the way this doctor treated this woman.


Let me first say that my own Primary Care Doctor was not always a fan of weight loss surgery. In fact, when I told him that I had decided to do it, he let me know, very kindly that it wasn’t something he particularly believed in but that as always he would support my decisions and he understood why I was doing it. A year later when I weighted 195 lb. instead of 420 lb.. and he was no longer seeing me constantly, wasn’t having to prescribe insulin and diabetes medication, high blood pressure medication, water pills, potassium pills to go with them, muscle relaxers and Vicodin for the chronic back pain I was in his opinion drastically changed. In fact I just saw my PCP last Wednesday because he likes to see me two weeks after any plastic surgery I do now so that if there are any excess swelling issues like there were during my first set of plastics back in Feb he can address them. When I saw him last week he was joking around with me about how Bariatric Surgeons can cure diabetes and regular physicians can only treat it. He goes out of his way to help me in any way he can with my weight loss journey and constantly comments on how seeing me go through the process has dramatically changed his opinion on Bariatric Surgery. I will note as well that I was also his first patient to have any sort of weight loss surgery. He runs all my lab work for my yearly tests. THIS my friends is how a person SHOULD be treated by their Primary Care Doctor.

To the Doctor that treated my friend this way. And when I get your name and address I WILL publish it here on this blog and I WILL be writing a letter to you personally to make sure your attention is drawn to my blog specially so that you are well aware of how absolutely ashamed of your medical practice behavior I am. How dare you treat anyone in such a fashion let alone send a patient running from your office in tears because you have degraded her. No matter what your views are on obesity, bariatric surgery, or gastric bypass you have no right to emotionally assault a woman who has made the choice to undergo gastric bypass to get her life back. You took an oath to save lives and whether you like it or not, whether you support it or not, fact, statistics and numbers do not lie, Bariatric Surgery is saving lives.

6a00d83452408569e20120a6b78d2c970b-400wiI will be asking you to refund my friends $100 dollars, as there is no way that she should pay for the emotional trauma that you caused her and further more, I will be asking the online weight loss community to stand behind me in this pursuit for fairness. How dare you persecute and judge the people of our community for making decisions to save their lives.

While I do not believe that every physician has to support Bariatric Surgery, I do believe that no physical has the right to judge and mistreat any patient or discriminate against them or harass them for either their weight, BMI, or in this case, their selected method of fighting obesity and making sure that their weight and BMI allows them to live a happy healthier life.

Shame on you Doctor. Shame on you. And as soon as I have the information I need, I will be starting a petition against your behavior. For every person like you that will send someone out of your office in tears emotionally abusing them because of their decision to have Gastric Bypass surgery to save their lives, there is someone like ME that will stand up and fight for them. Allow me to introduce myself to you, I am Pandora, I also had a Gastric Bypass that saved my life and because of your emotionally abusive treatment of a woman in my community seeking health care, I’m about to be someone you get to know really well. Nice meeting you.

NOTE: My WLS friends, please post all your comments on this blog post so that this doctor will be able to see them when he is directed to this page. Thank you.


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