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What a week for Seeking Slender

There is so much stuff going on in my life I really have no clue where to begin sometimes. I might have some really exciting news regarding the Desperately Seeking Slender Fundraiser but I don’t want to announce it until everything is official. But Heather and Ashli have been working hard at seeing who they could get to sponsor our Fundraiser and who they might be able to get to donate and it looks like Ashli got us the Sponsorship of a very nice exercise equipment and fitness store here in the Pacific North West.

I’m very happy to introduce everyone to Northwest Fitness. One of Portland’s Best every Fitness Supply locations. Heather and I had the pleasure of meeting their Sales Direction Jeff Hahn and we got a chance to look at their Showroom. OMG there were so many things I wanted to take home. When we first started talking to Jeff last week over the phone we had sent him a list of Fitness Supply products that we were hoping to buy with the $3500 we had budgeted for “Equipment and Surfaces” and Jeff got right on it. He even took our list to a Fitness Supply Trade show that he was attending in Las Vegas last week to talk to some of his Vendors about us and the things we were looking for!

We got to meet with Jeff on Saturday morning and we were so impressed with Northwest Fitness it isn’t even funny.  From their AMAZING Showroom that literally makes you want to jump on everything, try it out, see how it works. If I had the space for a home gym I’d go broke in that store! And Jeff, was awesome about showing up the options for the products that we were looking for, talking to us about what we thought we would need and making adjustments, and of course he showed us a couple things that were not on our list that are now like The Human Trainer! Oh the torture I will make some people endure someday working on THAT thing. It’s very similar to the TRX Suspension System that my own Personal Trainer, Suzie over at Tym for me Fitness, uses on her clients, and trust me when she first got it a lot of us were cursing at her under our breath in her gym. Maybe not even under our breath so much as just cursing at her. Of course whenever Suzie wanted me to do something new I didn’t really curse at her, I just looked at her and asked “Are you high?”

Suzie went with us on Saturday as well and she was really excited about some ab rollers that Jeff showed us. I would have gotten excited about them too if I had the abs and upper body strength to use them without falling on my face, but I’m still healing from surgery. I know I look all healed up but it wasn’t even two months ago yet that we did my side gather abdominoplasty and breast lift and the fact that not even 8 weeks out I am in a Fitness Equipment Store doing lunges off a step 360 and trying out dumbbells and such is pretty amazing and I think, a testament to what sort of physical health I am in these days. I remember a time when I would not have bounced back nearly that well.

Last week was so full of exciting news for me. It was also my first week back in the gym. I’m starting out slow again with my Cardio, no reason to go crazy right out of the gate and risk an injury that will lay me up unnecessarily, I’ve got enough of those 8 week gym breaks after surgery scheduled for the next year or so. Speaking of which, I know a lot of people have been asking me, I spoke with my Plastic Surgeon the other day and she said we were going to try for an early December surgery date for the next surgery which will be working on my thighs. They say this surgery is the most painful and hardest recovery of all of the reconstructive surgeries that one has after major weight loss and I will be honest, I am NOT looking forward to this one.

Heather and I had our little IPhone adventure. You might recall I waited on a Birthday present this year from Jason to wait and see what the IPhone 5 was going to do and when they announced it I decided that was the phone I wanted for my birthday. Since I had an upgrade available I got the phone at the carriers discounted rate which is like less than 50% the full price of the phone. But I wanted a 64 Gig Black one and you would not believe how difficult it was to get my grubby little hands on one when they came out on Friday. But that’s a story for another time. I did get the new IPhone5 so that too has now come off my Fundraiser list!

Between that and the help of Jeff and Northwest Fitness, we’ve knocked a pretty big chunk of our start-up costs down. The biggest thing here is that we absolutely HAVE to raise the funds to pay for my ACE Certification as soon as possible. Even if only the Personal Trainer one saving the Nutrition one for right after, we have to make sure that if NOTHING else at all we get that Covered so our next milestone we want to meet in the Fundraiser is to get someone to Sponsor the ACE Certification which is $800 for the Personal Trainer one and $800 for the Nutrition one I want to take right after. I need both of these to make sure I can do both Personal Training and Diet Plans, both of which are going to be essential to Desperately Seeking Slender.

I know that we have a couple pledges sitting out there from a few of you that love me! But you know me, I don’t count my pounds before I lose them, or my hatching chickens or something, so we’re not banking on anything JUST yet.

It’s been an insane week for me and everyone around me. Fundraising, Gym Time, Puppy Training and Training Classes, Planning the Oakland Trip, Camping out for IPhones, Doctors Appointments, Meeting Jeff, getting our first Sponsor, it’s been an amazing ride this week and to top it all off, I can officially say that my swelling is down enough to let me back into my skinniest pair of jeans yet… my 7 for Mankind Jeans. \o/ and in case you don’t recognize that gesture it looks something like this… oh and by the way, I weighted 335lbs when this picture was taken 7 days after my Gastric bypass just 23 Months ago….

But you have seen that \0/ Gesture a few times… Like when Heather and Ashli came to visit in November and of course the night we bought the Dodge Caliber that I knew was going to become my Desperately Seeking Slender Mobile Training Vehicle.

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P!nk has me reminiscing


I hate it when I’m so easily distracted by something that I have to stop and write about it, but I just sort of think when the mood strikes you go with it.


It’s still Monday for me, even though it is really Tuesday it’s 2am and I haven’t slept yet, which is nothing new, I keep very strange hours being the night owl that I am, I imagine that will have to stop someday soon as most of my work is going to be during normal people hours instead of the nocturnal hours I like to keep.


So what’s on my mind tonight… P!nk. I know funny subject right? But her new album comes out tomorrow and I’m so excited to hear it I can’t wait. I find it sad how hard it is to actually get in contact with people that affect your life so greatly and be able to let them know. There are seriously three Famous people in the entire world that I can honestly say I would love to be able to give a great big hug to and say thank you. P!nk is one of them. This woman’s music has had such a huge impact on my life.


Four years ago I really didn’t even know who P!nk was or listen to her much. It wasn’t truly until I started exercising that she became a regular part of my play list after Heather had recommended I listen to her. The first P!nk song I ever listened to was “Funhouse” and it hit so close to home for me that it made me decide to listen to her other songs.


I don’t talk much about the time that my blog went inactive, I don’t share much what was going on at my life at that time because it was deeply personal and while I won’t go into serious details what I will say is that I didn’t have the most stellar childhood and I don’t have the most perfect relationship with my Mother, and that had a whole lot to do with why I spent the better part of my 20s in therapy and the better part of my 30s working on losing all the weight that I put on to mask the pain that was inside me.


When my blog experienced it’s blackout in January I had gone back to California, to a place I had ran away from at 16 and never really went back to face in any manner than breezing through town for a day or two.  My father had just had a stroke that had left him with some pretty serious dementia and we were unsure if he was going to make it or if he would perhaps need to be put in a home. I also discovered at that time that my Mother had become a Hoarder. She’ll hate me for saying that in a public space, but it’s not really a big secret, and since a large portion of my weight loss journey has included dealing with my Mother’s issues, I feel I am at liberty to discuss it. After all, it’s not like she’s been a pillar of support for me through all this. You expect as a child that your parents will always be there to take care of you. That is how it was with my Father; he was always there to take care of me, always worried about me, always wanting to know that I was okay. Not my Mother though, she’s more often than not the one that brings me to tears, turns my world upside down and twists me into an emotional frenzy that has those that truly love me trying to put me back together for weeks at a time.


The entire time I was in California dealing with what was going on there, P!nk was in my ears. Every day when I was cleaning up that house, at night when I was going to bed, whenever I left to go for a walk because I needed time away or just wanted the exercise, I was listening to P!nk and just finding that I associated so much with so many of her songs.


“There you go” reminded me so much of the marriage problems I was having at the time


“Don’t Let me Get me” reminded me so much of myself and my own tendency to self-destruct


“Family Portrait”  reminded me so much of my life and my childhood and my constant battles to get along with my Mother.


“Stupid Girls” made me not feel so bad for hating all those skinny girls in the gym


“So What” reminded me of Heather telling me I was a rockstar all the time.


“F**kin’ Perfect” reminded me that other people didn’t see me as harshly as I saw myself.


And when my Father died, and I started to run, I remember the night he was dying so clearly. It was the 4th of July, and a hospice nurse who I had talked a lot to because she had a gastric bypass several years ago and I wasn’t even a year out of mine yet sat with my Father so that I could go for a run. I’d only been running for a short time, a few weeks maybe, walking for 4 minutes running for 1, walking for 3 minutes running for 2, I put P!nk on my playlist and I hit the streets as the fireworks were going off knowing that it was going to be the last Holiday my Father was every with me for. I felt like I had failed him so badly that night. He had told me that he needed to know I was going to be okay and there was no way I had given that to him. I had lost over 200lbs but I still weighed about 220 and I still had a long way to go and I had wanted to get there before I lost him so bad. But I knew that it was my Father’s time to go, and I knew that he was hanging on because he wanted to know that my Mom and I were going to be okay. So I made a deal with my Father that night that I’d always talk to him and spend time with him when I was running. “Just like a Pill” was playing on the Ipod off P!nk’s Great Hits So Far Album. It’s a moment I will never forget. The song reminded me so much of the moment I had decided to leave home. I remember the shattered look on my Father’s face when I said good-bye.  But I knew as I did it that it was the only way I was ever going to get away from the fighting that went on between my Mother and I and I knew it was the only way I was going to ever get past the things that had happened to me though they were no fault of my Fathers, he was part of a life I needed to distance myself from.


“Run Just as fast as I can.


To the middle of nowhere


To the middle of my frustrated fears


And I swear you’re just like a pill


‘Stead of makin’ me better, you keep makin’ me ill


You keep makin’ me ill.”




To this day it is one of my favorite songs to run to and to this day P!nk dominates my play list though there are a few others that sneak in there on a regular basis. Katy Perry, Nickelback, and yes, still, NKOTB but none of that NKTOBSB crap! I was NOT a fan of them teaming up with the Backstreet Boys at all.


Anyways, P!nk should you ever read this, you are an amazing artist who has touched my life in more ways than you will ever know because your music gave me an outlet and something to focus on and relate to during one of the most sad and devastating times of my life as well as the inspiration and motivation that everyone needs in the ears at the gym or when they are out for a run. Your voice is one of my best friends and someday I really hope I’ll be able to give you a hug and say thank you. Until them I’ll be out there tomorrow buying your new album and seeing how many more of your songs tell stories about my life.

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