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Woman Emotionally Assaulted by PCP over having Gastric Bypass

I want to bring some attention to this story….

I am not usually the type to call someone out in public, it is not usually my style. But I have a friend in the WLS community whom I will not name at this time because I do not have her expressed permission to do so. But I got a note from her on Facebook today asking me to go read a post that she had written on a group I am not a member of. She was very upset, when I finally read the post I understood why.

“Not having a good today. I have been so upset and crying all day because I went to a new primary care doctor today (that my mom has seen for years), since I don’t have one and my GBS surgeon has moved to another state, and I could barely hold the tears back to get out of his office and to my car. I went to him today to talk to him about taking over my pain management care for the broken bone in my back and my post GBS care to do all of my yearly labs and treat my ulcer pain I am having once again because of a new muscle relaxer that my horrible pain management dr. has put me on. I have never been so hurt emotionally by a “physician” in all of my life! My whole visit was NOT about my health and my care. It was about him degrading me for needing pain management for the broken bone in my back and degrading me even more because I had GBS.  I am so hurt at that man! For someone who is supposed to be a physician and taking care of my health, he sure hurt me emotionally! Every problem I told him I have since my GBS, such as anemia, ulcers, dangerously high calcium deficiency, he mocked me and offered no help or solution. He disregarded my pain management and told me point blank that I had a dr, (which I told him I was not happy with and is why I was coming to him) and he would not get involved and that his office could have told me he does not do pain management if I had asked, which I did! I even asked his nurse point blank if he does pain management when she took me to the exam room AND it was also on my paperwork that I filled out and mailed in two weeks ago! Then proceeded to tell me that he was NOT a fan of GBS in a very nasty voice and that I had parts of my body cut on that were not the problem and I should have had emotional treatment instead of GBS for morbid obesity! I tried to reason with him for a few minutes and realized that it would get me nowhere, so I finally told him that I was thankful I had GBS because it literally saved my life and that I realize there are other underlying issues associated with morbid obesity, but some of the components are also genetic, and that I could argue with him all day, but it would probably not change his nor my opinion on the matter, and if he was to the point of being in a wheelchair, not able to walk, not able to drive, and wondered every time he went to sleep if he would wake up or leave his children without a dad due to sleep apnea and other co-morbidities, he would have made the choice I made too! I told him I am thankful that I am alive and I will be able to watch my grandbaby grow up!!! At that point, he stood up and sorta stomped his foot, as if to gesture our visit was over, and he handed me a prescription slip for an acid reducer, which I had bought over the counter at Dollar General last night and a high dose of steroid. When I told him I wanted Carafate to heal my ulcer, he stated that I just needed the antacid. I told him that I had bought the antacid at Dollar General last night and it does not CURE my ulcer once I get it, it’s only a preventative medicine BEFORE the ulcer forms, and he informed me that it was for the prescription strength of the antacid and he gave me a lab slip with $400 worth of labs ordered and walked out. I sat there for a few minutes wondering if I should even pay for this visit, which I did not really have the money for, but I decided that I was taught better than that and I got myself together and went to the checkout window and I paid the lady $100 and told her I would not be getting the labs done! I could barely talk to the lady because I was fighting back tears. I could have just walked out and not paid for that visit, what could they have done??? The door was right there, but I choice to do the thing that my conscious could live with. I think I will write this dr an informative letter and let me know exactly how I feel about the way he treated me and the things he said to me and how I felt after leaving his office. I am so upset…….I am on the verge of tears every time I think about the way I was treated today because I had to have GBS to save my life.”

I am absolutely appalled by the way this doctor treated this woman.


Let me first say that my own Primary Care Doctor was not always a fan of weight loss surgery. In fact, when I told him that I had decided to do it, he let me know, very kindly that it wasn’t something he particularly believed in but that as always he would support my decisions and he understood why I was doing it. A year later when I weighted 195 lb. instead of 420 lb.. and he was no longer seeing me constantly, wasn’t having to prescribe insulin and diabetes medication, high blood pressure medication, water pills, potassium pills to go with them, muscle relaxers and Vicodin for the chronic back pain I was in his opinion drastically changed. In fact I just saw my PCP last Wednesday because he likes to see me two weeks after any plastic surgery I do now so that if there are any excess swelling issues like there were during my first set of plastics back in Feb he can address them. When I saw him last week he was joking around with me about how Bariatric Surgeons can cure diabetes and regular physicians can only treat it. He goes out of his way to help me in any way he can with my weight loss journey and constantly comments on how seeing me go through the process has dramatically changed his opinion on Bariatric Surgery. I will note as well that I was also his first patient to have any sort of weight loss surgery. He runs all my lab work for my yearly tests. THIS my friends is how a person SHOULD be treated by their Primary Care Doctor.

To the Doctor that treated my friend this way. And when I get your name and address I WILL publish it here on this blog and I WILL be writing a letter to you personally to make sure your attention is drawn to my blog specially so that you are well aware of how absolutely ashamed of your medical practice behavior I am. How dare you treat anyone in such a fashion let alone send a patient running from your office in tears because you have degraded her. No matter what your views are on obesity, bariatric surgery, or gastric bypass you have no right to emotionally assault a woman who has made the choice to undergo gastric bypass to get her life back. You took an oath to save lives and whether you like it or not, whether you support it or not, fact, statistics and numbers do not lie, Bariatric Surgery is saving lives.

6a00d83452408569e20120a6b78d2c970b-400wiI will be asking you to refund my friends $100 dollars, as there is no way that she should pay for the emotional trauma that you caused her and further more, I will be asking the online weight loss community to stand behind me in this pursuit for fairness. How dare you persecute and judge the people of our community for making decisions to save their lives.

While I do not believe that every physician has to support Bariatric Surgery, I do believe that no physical has the right to judge and mistreat any patient or discriminate against them or harass them for either their weight, BMI, or in this case, their selected method of fighting obesity and making sure that their weight and BMI allows them to live a happy healthier life.

Shame on you Doctor. Shame on you. And as soon as I have the information I need, I will be starting a petition against your behavior. For every person like you that will send someone out of your office in tears emotionally abusing them because of their decision to have Gastric Bypass surgery to save their lives, there is someone like ME that will stand up and fight for them. Allow me to introduce myself to you, I am Pandora, I also had a Gastric Bypass that saved my life and because of your emotionally abusive treatment of a woman in my community seeking health care, I’m about to be someone you get to know really well. Nice meeting you.

NOTE: My WLS friends, please post all your comments on this blog post so that this doctor will be able to see them when he is directed to this page. Thank you.


Featured in the Dec Walk from Obesity E-Newsletter

So for those that don’t realize it, life was a little busy for me for a bit. I left Oregon for Dallas, TX on October 24th, in order to attend the 2012 Inaugural Your Weight Matters Convention. I left Dallas on the 30th, the day after we did the Walk From Obesity and headed to San Francisco CA, where I spent some time visiting friends, saw my niece Abby brought into the world and got to spend a week or so bonding with her before I headed home on the 19th. Getting home just in time for Thanksgiving on the 22nd spending the long weekend with my Family and the I was off for my Reconstructive Thigh Lift on the 28th. They sent me home the same day and I’ve been recovering for the past 17 days and I haven’t had a lot of time to do many serious blogs, but I can’t even believe that I forgot to point this out to you guys! After all, it was so exciting….

Guess who was featured in this months Walk from Obesity E-Newsletter a their Member Profile? Me!

This month we spoke with Jamie Williams, also known as Pandora, from Portland, OR. Pandora participated in her first ever Walk from Obesity event in Dallas on October 28, 2012! Pandora attended the Obesity Action Coalition’s (OAC) Inaugural Your Weight MattersNational Convention and decided to participate in the Dallas Walk from Obesity, which was held in conjunction with the Convention.

Each e-newsletter we will feature a walker or a team that has participated in the Walk from Obesity. If you or your team would like to be featured, please send an email to
Read the Entire Article here:
2010 Walk from Obesity E-Newsletter – December

They spelled my name wrong though! Nobody ever spells “Jaime” the right way, it is one of the reasons I hate that name so much. Also, growing up in Los Angels CA, where there is a high hispanic population my name was always mistaken for the Spanish version – “Jaime” pronounced ‘Hi-me’. It used to irritated the crap out of me that with a maiden name like O’Neal, so categorically Irish, they would still pronounce my first name as though it had hispanic origin.

Mostly I hate being called Jaime because I don’t associate with that girl very well. I got the opportunity to have a talk with my friend Michelle from The World According to Egg Face, about this topic in fact, when we were attending the OAC Convention, to me “Jaime” is very much that “fat-girl” in the before picture that I stole Michelle’s fabulous idea, and wore around my neck on a lanyard for the weekend so that people could see my before with me standing in front of them as the after. But I very much associate the name “Jaime” with who I was pre Gastric Bypass and I very much see “Pandora”, a nickname that has stuck with me for longer than I can remember, as the post Gastric Bypass girl who is so passionate about helping others in their weight loss journey.If my phone rings and they ask for “Jaime” I always know its 1. Someone that doesn’t really know me. or B. Someone in the medical or financial field. Michelle suggested to me that I legally change my name. I might consider that again these days with the climate with my Family being what it is.

I’ve been spending way too much time in front of my desktop the last few days because I had a lot of bills to pay and finances to take care of and I do all of that on my Desktop not my Macbook Air, part of the joy of having a Windows PC for most things and a Macbook Air for blogging, writing, traveling and all that jazz. But sitting at the PC seems to serious increase my swelling. I went into the hospital at 165 and they cut off just about 3lb. of skin. I came home at 170, which isn’t really shocking considering swelling. I’ve bounced back and forth between 167 and 172 since I came home. yes that’s a gain, I’m not stressing it, my body is healing and I’ve got swelling on board, no reason to panic, I’ve been out of the gym and not exercising for 3 weeks now. ( I took a week off pre-op to make sure I didn’t over do it and that I went into it healthy and well hydrated. ) When the swelling goes down and I am released to exercise again, I’ll kick it into gear and get back to 160. But yesterday after sitting at the desktop for nearly 9 hours with pee breaks and walks through the apartment, my thighs, legs and feet all ended up swelling and I was showing 174 on the scale before bed.

That pretty  much means I am spending the weekend in the “recovery recliner’ has I have so lovingly named it, with everything elevated to combat the swelling. 17 days post WLS Reconstructive Plastic Surgery and I’m still waiting for the tape to come off the incisions, the drains to come out, and the swelling to stop being quiet and issue. Let’s hope those three things all start happening soon. Then maybe I won’t forget to tell you about a newsletter I was featured in for nearly two weeks!


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