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Pandora Williams author of Desperately Seeking Slender is an ISSA Certified Personal Trainer and Cooper Institute Approved Wellness Coach Trained in Weight Management Strategies. Her training and coaching services are offered exclusively through GoGirl Fitness Studio.
13 03, 2019

Sex, Love and Obesity Part 26 – Why Didn’t You Fight For Me?

By |2019-03-13T14:50:54+00:00March 13th, 2019|My Story, Sex, Love & Obesity|0 Comments

When we left of in Sex, Love and Obesity part 25 I was at a place where I began to recognize the pattern. Having too many loose threads in my life and too many possible love interests was making my already difficult struggle regaining control of my Dissociative Identity Disorder even harder. Although I recognized the pattern, fixing it wasn’t as easy as it would seem. For me to start tying up loose ends, parts of [...]

4 03, 2019

Sex Love and Obesity Part 25 – Unraveling At The Seams

By |2019-03-04T12:43:48+00:00March 4th, 2019|My Story, Sex, Love & Obesity|0 Comments

In Sex, Love and Obesity Part 24 I discussed a relapse into my pleasure-seeking behaviors that happened while I was at a weight loss convention in Portland trying to deal with all the loose strings that existed in my life. Think of the life you live as a sweater that you wear. Mine had a lot of loose strings. If I didn't find a way to deal with them surely one of them was [...]

25 02, 2019

Sex, Love and Obesity Part 24 – Using Sex as a Drug

By |2019-03-03T10:02:51+00:00February 25th, 2019|My Story, Sex, Love & Obesity|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 23 I had a major slip in my decision making while attending a convention in Portland. In that moment, albeit unintentionally, I had lit a match to my life. The decisions I made in this over emotional state would quite literally start to burn down everything around me. I didn't recognize it yet but using sex as a go-to feel better drug was a problem. Let's [...]

18 02, 2019

Sex Love and Obesity Part 23 – Emotional Arson – F*ck it, Light a Match

By |2019-03-03T10:03:58+00:00February 18th, 2019|My Story, Sex, Love & Obesity|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 22 I introduced you to the concept of Dysfunctional Dissociation. Meaning, several different parts of me are making different decisions at different times and it's not working out well. I’m not always in agreement with those decisions. It had been about three weeks since I left the apartment with Peter in it. Three weeks of constant arguing with Peter over the phone and text messages [...]

11 02, 2019

Sex Love and Obesity Part 22 – Dysfunctionally Dissociative

By |2019-03-03T10:14:55+00:00February 11th, 2019|My Story, Sex, Love & Obesity|0 Comments

Understanding Dissociative Identity Disorder and Dysfunctional Dissociation  When we left off in Sex Love and Obesity Part 21, my entire life when it came to sex, love and decisions that involved those two things was unraveling at the seams. Every part of me was going in a different direction. Each part of me wanted something distinctly different. If you read my Dissociative Identity Disorder - Six Women One Mind blog, you'll understand [...]

4 02, 2019

Grief. Recovering from aftershocks.

By |2019-02-04T14:58:52+00:00February 4th, 2019|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

Grief can literally knock the wind right out of you. Grief is a hard emotion to deal with. Dealing with loss is difficult, we all do it in our own way. The strange thing about grief is that it sneaks up on you in little ways you're not expecting. When it does, it can knock the breath right out of you. This past Friday afternoon I found myself huddled on the floor [...]

27 01, 2019

Emotional Baggage – Is it Causing Imbalance in your Wellness Wheel?

By |2019-01-27T12:48:40+00:00January 27th, 2019|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

If you're feeling lost. Emotional Baggage could be weighing you down. "I've already dealt with my emotional baggage." That's a lie we tell ourselves to make things better when we don't like the truth that faces us in the mirror. Emotional baggage has a negative connotation to it. As such, we try to distance ourselves from the notion that we have it. But, if you are feeling lost, it's very likely that [...]

20 01, 2019

Dental Health After Bariatric Surgery

By |2019-01-20T11:12:39+00:00January 20th, 2019|My Story, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

Is your dental health in jeopardy after Bariatric Surgery? Dental health wasn't something I gave a lot of consideration to when I made the decision to have bariatric surgery. They warned me about the possibility of my hair falling out. I combated that with biotin shampoo. I took biotin and horsetail supplements. In case you don't know this the main ingredient in horsetail supplements (silica, or silicon) helps strengthen hair strands, as [...]

13 01, 2019

Remote Personal Training – How does it work?

By |2019-01-13T09:50:10+00:00January 13th, 2019|My Story, Bariatric Fitness, Bariatric Wellness, Dear DSS, Life After Weight Loss, Obesity Rebel|0 Comments

Remote Personal Training - Skeptical in Washington asks: The new site design for Desperately Seeking Slender has been up for about 2 weeks now. Some of you have already began to use the new "Dear Desperately Seeking Slender" feature. If you don't know what I am talking about check this out. One of the newest features of the blog redesign is that it gives you the ability to submit topics you'd like [...]

6 01, 2019

The Big Drop – Bariatric Edition

By |2019-01-06T10:28:16+00:00January 6th, 2019|My Story, Bariatric Fitness, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss, Obesity Rebel|0 Comments

What the hell is The Big Drop? You wanna know? I have an answer! The Big Drop is an 8 Week Long Fitness Challenge event at GoGirl Fitness Studio.  It’s an 8-week fitness and nutrition challenge where you get TONS of instruction, support, motivation and accountability to lose weight or get back into the groove of your healthy lifestyle. Let's get honest and raw here for a moment. Did you set a [...]