In Sex Love and Obesity Part 14 - Peter had fallen off of a bike and broken his hip. Our sex life started to tank and without sex as a distraction, the rose-colored glasses I was seeing the relationship through suddenly became a lot clearer. He wanted me to use my emergency savings fund to help him. I wasn't on board for that. We started fighting a lot more. This tragedy ended up being the very [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 13 - Peter had just moved in, one of my dearest friends had just passed away and the arguing in our relationship had started escalatingmover differences in our priorities. June and July are difficult months for me. I have a trouble dealing with the grief of losing my Dad between Father’s Day, the day he passed away, (July 5th) and his birthday on July 20th. That year in particular was harder [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 12 - Peter had decided to move to North Carolina so that we could begin our life together. It was April now and Peter and I were just about to move in together. I admittedly wasn’t handling things very well. My life was an emotional roller coaster. I had relapsed into smoking cigarettes again the previous June & July when the grief of Father’s Day and the Anniversary of my [...]
Previously on Sex Love and Obesity - Part 11 we left of with me falling in love with Peter. Love happens when you least expect it, it’s not something you decide to feel, it’s just suddenly there and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about. I lied to everyone around me. I didn’t tell my closest friends that we had slept together. I didn’t admit that I was in love. At the time [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 10, I introduced you to Peter, a man who was about to change my entire world. He was about to teach me one of the biggest lessons I have learned when it comes to relationships after weight loss. Attention seeking can lead you down a dark rabbit hole. October turned into November. Remember, I told you that November tends to be a defining month in my life when it [...]
Previously in the Sex Love and Obesity series we talked about how someone else had come along and Superman had let me go without resistance to seek the greener grass in another relationship. In my last blog discussed Dissociative Identity Disorder and how after 15 years of managing this mental health issue my next relationship choice suddenly made it a prevalent issue in my life again. Before we talk about the relationship itself, let’s talk about how it even came [...]
I’ve been trying to decide how to broach this topic for a quite a while now. It’s a sensitive subject. It’s something I want to make sure I explain well so that it is not misunderstood or misinterpreted. It’s something I’ve avoided discussing publicly for fear of judgement or ridicule. But, it’s also something that I feel we need to talk about before we move forward in the Sex Love and Obesity series. Without understanding [...]
In part 8 of Sex Love and Obesity I was getting on a plane and going back to wrap up my life in Portland - put all my things in my car and move myself all the way across the country to be with the man I had loved for the last 10 years. I did that. I arrived in North Carolina in February of 2014 after 3 miserable months in Portland of trying to [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity part 7 we left of with Superman being an unattainable man in my life, me being unwilling to tell him the truth because now that I had lost all my weight for the second time in my life I was plagued with the excess skin issues that still made me uncomfortable with my own body. It is amazing, the shift that happens after you lose so much weight. I always [...]
In the last episode of Sex Love and Obesity (Part 6 - Finding the "u" in weight loss) - I introduced you to the man I loved before my husband. I think we need to give him a name. In the spirit of protecting the innocent (and the guilty) I’m going to call him Clark. Why Clark? Because to this day, he is still my Superman. Let’s pick up where the story left off. He [...]
