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5 10, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity – Part 20

By |2018-11-10T10:06:24+00:00October 5th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex, Love and Obesity Part 19 - I had gotten in my car and drove away. Have you ever dated someone who brings out the worst in you? It’s like a strange chemical reaction that you can’t explain. It’s like having two typical household items underneath your bathroom sink. Bleach and Vinegar. Singularly they are both safe, non-toxic products.  But mix them together and now you’ve got a dangerous chlorine gas that can cause [...]

16 09, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 19

By |2018-10-05T09:19:56+00:00September 16th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 18 I talked about the fight that Peter and I had that sent me over the edge. At this point I didn’t care if he loved me. I didn’t even care if nobody else ever loved me. It didn’t matter that I loved him anymore. It didn’t matter how much I loved him. It didn’t matter that the sex was once amazing. At that point I really didn’t care [...]

9 09, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 18

By |2018-12-12T18:06:52+00:00September 9th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 17 I had drawn a line in the sand. I had clearly told Peter that if the fighting and arguments didn’t stop and if I continued to feel emotionally abused in the relationship I was going to leave. You know how they say perception is reality? That was so true here. His perception was that we didn’t fight that much. That there were more good times than there [...]

3 09, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 17

By |2018-09-03T09:14:26+00:00September 3rd, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 16 I told you that I had hit the proverbial rock-bottom. Sometimes you THINK you are at rock-bottom, then something happens, and you suddenly go “Oh, No, okay, THIS is rock-bottom.” You think it can’t possibly get any worse; then it does. We’re going to fast forward a little bit. January goes by. February comes and about a week before I am about to leave for an all girls trip to [...]

2 09, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 16

By |2018-09-02T16:03:09+00:00September 2nd, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 15 I discussed how I had found myself in a relationship where I pretty much felt emotionally abused and emotionally blackmailed. I stayed because the sex was amazing and because I was so desperate for someone to “love” me that I didn’t have the courage to walk away. I want to take a moment to clarify here, this was as much my fault as it was his. While there is no [...]

24 08, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 15

By |2018-09-02T10:35:49+00:00August 24th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|1 Comment

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 14 - Peter had fallen off of a bike and broken his hip. Our sex life started to tank and without sex as a distraction, the rose-colored glasses I was seeing the relationship through suddenly became a lot clearer. He wanted me to use my emergency savings fund to help him. I wasn't on board for that. We started fighting a lot more. This tragedy ended up being the very [...]

18 08, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 14

By |2018-08-24T10:22:28+00:00August 18th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 13 - Peter had just moved in, one of my dearest friends had just passed away and the arguing in our relationship had started escalatingmover differences in our priorities. June and July are difficult months for me. I have a trouble dealing with the grief of losing my Dad between Father’s Day, the day he passed away, (July 5th) and his birthday on July 20th. That year in particular was harder [...]

12 08, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 13

By |2018-08-24T10:23:27+00:00August 12th, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 12 - Peter had decided to move to North Carolina so that we could begin our life together. It was April now and Peter and I were just about to move in together. I admittedly wasn’t handling things very well. My life was an emotional roller coaster. I had relapsed into smoking cigarettes again the previous June & July when the grief of Father’s Day and the Anniversary of my [...]

5 08, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 12

By |2018-08-24T10:24:19+00:00August 5th, 2018|Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

Previously on Sex Love and Obesity - Part 11 we left of with me falling in love with Peter. Love happens when you least expect it, it’s not something you decide to feel, it’s just suddenly there and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about. I lied to everyone around me. I didn’t tell my closest friends that we had slept together. I didn’t admit that I was in love. At the time [...]

31 07, 2018

Sex Love and Obesity Part 11

By |2018-08-24T10:25:04+00:00July 31st, 2018|My Story, Bariatric Wellness, Life After Weight Loss|0 Comments

In Sex Love and Obesity Part 10, I introduced you to Peter, a man who was about to change my entire world. He was about to teach me one of the biggest lessons I have learned when it comes to relationships after weight loss. Attention seeking can lead you down a dark rabbit hole. October turned into November. Remember, I told you that November tends to be a defining month in my life when it [...]