In Sex Love and Obesity Part 18 I talked about the fight that Peter and I had that sent me over the edge. At this point I didn’t care if he loved me. I didn’t even care if nobody else ever loved me. It didn’t matter that I loved him anymore. It didn’t matter how much I loved him. It didn’t matter that the sex was once amazing. At that point I really didn’t care [...]
Four months ago, after a yearlong hiatus I decided it was time to take back my run. Prior to my break, running had been therapeutic for me. It had been my means of emotionally escaping the world when I didn’t want to deal with whatever was going on in it. Running had been where I found comfort when trying to deal with the grief of losing my father. It was where I found peace and [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 17 I had drawn a line in the sand. I had clearly told Peter that if the fighting and arguments didn’t stop and if I continued to feel emotionally abused in the relationship I was going to leave. You know how they say perception is reality? That was so true here. His perception was that we didn’t fight that much. That there were more good times than there [...]
Transformation. The word makes most people think of change in form or appearance. But, transformations come in many fashions. Four months ago, I announced in my "#ThisIsMyBariLife" post that thanks to the good folks over at BariLife, I was going to back to Paris to run in the annual Paris Run Disney Half Marathon Weekend. I had stop running entirely for almost a whole year. My last half marathon had been back in May of 2016 [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 16 I told you that I had hit the proverbial rock-bottom. Sometimes you THINK you are at rock-bottom, then something happens, and you suddenly go “Oh, No, okay, THIS is rock-bottom.” You think it can’t possibly get any worse; then it does. We’re going to fast forward a little bit. January goes by. February comes and about a week before I am about to leave for an all girls trip to [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 15 I discussed how I had found myself in a relationship where I pretty much felt emotionally abused and emotionally blackmailed. I stayed because the sex was amazing and because I was so desperate for someone to “love” me that I didn’t have the courage to walk away. I want to take a moment to clarify here, this was as much my fault as it was his. While there is no [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 14 - Peter had fallen off of a bike and broken his hip. Our sex life started to tank and without sex as a distraction, the rose-colored glasses I was seeing the relationship through suddenly became a lot clearer. He wanted me to use my emergency savings fund to help him. I wasn't on board for that. We started fighting a lot more. This tragedy ended up being the very [...]
Protein. It’s the first thing we learn about when it comes to nutrition in our post-operative bariatric surgery lifestyle. I really wish that I was the sort of bariatric surgery patient that possess the kitchen savviness that has me creating protein shakes so yummy you’d think you had just hit the Tropical Smoothie Café or Smoothie King drive-through, but alas I am not. That sort of play with your food creativity is what lead me to [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 13 - Peter had just moved in, one of my dearest friends had just passed away and the arguing in our relationship had started escalatingmover differences in our priorities. June and July are difficult months for me. I have a trouble dealing with the grief of losing my Dad between Father’s Day, the day he passed away, (July 5th) and his birthday on July 20th. That year in particular was harder [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 12 - Peter had decided to move to North Carolina so that we could begin our life together. It was April now and Peter and I were just about to move in together. I admittedly wasn’t handling things very well. My life was an emotional roller coaster. I had relapsed into smoking cigarettes again the previous June & July when the grief of Father’s Day and the Anniversary of my [...]
