Grief can literally knock the wind right out of you. Grief is a hard emotion to deal with. Dealing with loss is difficult, we all do it in our own way. The strange thing about grief is that it sneaks up on you in little ways you're not expecting. When it does, it can knock the breath right out of you. This past Friday afternoon I found myself huddled on the floor [...]
If you're feeling lost. Emotional Baggage could be weighing you down. "I've already dealt with my emotional baggage." That's a lie we tell ourselves to make things better when we don't like the truth that faces us in the mirror. Emotional baggage has a negative connotation to it. As such, we try to distance ourselves from the notion that we have it. But, if you are feeling lost, it's very likely that [...]
Remote Personal Training - Skeptical in Washington asks: The new site design for Desperately Seeking Slender has been up for about 2 weeks now. Some of you have already began to use the new "Dear Desperately Seeking Slender" feature. If you don't know what I am talking about check this out. One of the newest features of the blog redesign is that it gives you the ability to submit topics you'd like [...]
What the hell is The Big Drop? You wanna know? I have an answer! The Big Drop is an 8 Week Long Fitness Challenge event at GoGirl Fitness Studio. It’s an 8-week fitness and nutrition challenge where you get TONS of instruction, support, motivation and accountability to lose weight or get back into the groove of your healthy lifestyle. Let's get honest and raw here for a moment. Did you set a [...]
When I am sad, depressed or stressed out I get withdrawn and quiet. Like most of you, these are emotions I don't deal with well. When I start to experience these emotions I instantly think, "I have to be really careful that I don't start feeding my feelings." Because, if I don't, I know I am just a few Twinkies away from weighing over 400 lbs. again. It might seem like a [...]
Let’s take a break from all the seriousness. I know I need one. Not to mention I still owe you all a very important Disneyland Paris Half Marathon event recap. I’ve ran a lot of half marathons. Forty-one to be exact. By far, my all-time favorite half marathons are the runDisney events. If you ask me, which you sort of did by coming to read my blog, this is appropriate. Because, for [...]
You never forget the moment you meet someone. I was living with my Godfather after my previous relationship had left me basically homeless. I was hanging out in Gorean chat rooms online. The chat rooms consisted of people who role played scenarios out of the 1960s John Norman Gor Novels and discussed the Master / slave philosophy that existed within those books. I had become friends with many of the participants of these chat rooms. [...]
In “Sex, Love and Obesity Part 20,” I talked about the day I finally got in my car and drove away. I was out of the house now, and the change in my stress and anxiety levels allowed me to stop turning to drugs and alcohol as coping mechanisms and escape. Last week, in “Dissociative Identity Disorder – Six Women One Mind,” I tried to paint you a clear picture of how my system works [...]
For people with Dissociative Identity Disorder dealing with fear can be a very uncomfortable experience. Fear is a powerful emotion. It can motivate you to start invoking change very quickly. But the problem is that fear isn’t always rational; which means it can lead you to make irrational decisions if it is the underlying emotion driving your actions. In Sex, Love and Obesity Part 20 I moved out of the apartment. I ran away to [...]
Six months ago, in the beginning of April I told you that I was breaking my silence and returning to blogging. Alongside that, in the "This is #MyBariLife" blog, I announced that thanks to the good folks over at I was going to get the opportunity to not only find my voice again, but to try to gain back something else that I had lost over the course of the last year and a half, my love of [...]
