In the last episode of Sex Love and Obesity (Part 6 - Finding the "u" in weight loss) - I introduced you to the man I loved before my husband. I think we need to give him a name. In the spirit of protecting the innocent (and the guilty) I’m going to call him Clark. Why Clark? Because to this day, he is still my Superman. Let’s pick up where the story left off. He [...]
Before we move on in this Sex Love and Obesity Series I need to roll back time a little bit and tell you about the guy before my husband. Sometimes I think that how a relationship starts determines very much how it will finish. This relationship started before my husband and I had become anything more than friends. It started with him having a free trial to the phone sex service I was working for [...]
In Sex Love and Obesity Part 4 we discussed the emotional end of my marriage. How I was about to move on and how I confident that having lost all that weight I would have no problem finding happiness with someone else. Losing weight isn’t a magic “life is great!” pill. Shocking isn’t it? I’d spent the better part of my adult life suffering from obesity and I was 100{6e74c841b8f362d8aea590534016dc569fd3035eeb9e530df8846b42682c6656} sure it was going to [...]
Last week, in Sex Love and Obesity Part 3 we left off at the point where I had decided to stay in my marriage and focus on myself for once. I wasn't sure when I was going to leave, or even, IF I was going to leave. Because somewhere in my mind I still believed that losing the weight might fix things. At this point I thought maybe if I focused on myself, I could inadvertently fix us [...]
Last week, in Sex Love and Obesity Part 2 we left off at the point where I had found out my insurance would not pay for bariatric surgery and I had depression eaten my way to 420 lb. “Do you believe in the nobility of suicide?” As harsh as it may sound it’s a question I ask people who don’t seem to understand how dramatically obesity can impact your health both physically and mentally. At [...]
There are moments that you look back on in life and think, “If I had that to do all over again, I’d sure do that differently.” Everyone has them. The emotion that drives these feelings can be different; sometimes it’s regret, sometimes it’s lack of education, while other times it’s a lack of knowledge. When I wrote “The Truth About Why I Stopped Running” blog last week, if you asked me what emotion was fueling [...]
Last week in the first part of this series, Sex Love and Obesity Part 1, we talked about how obesity affected my self-confidence and self-worth and affected the decisions I made in love sex and relationships prior to my marriage. I told you that finally at 24 I had met the “Master” I had been searching for, lost the weight he asked me to lose to be with him and got married. Today, we’re going [...]
I’m an Obesity Rebel. That means I don’t let this disease kick my ass any more. I make sure that I am always fighting back and that it never gets to have the hold on me it once did. But the methods I use to fight back have changed a little over the nearly 8 years since I started this journey. One of the keys to my success in weight loss was that I traded [...]
I believe that there is a part of the weight loss journey that we don’t talk about nearly enough. The way obesity affects the decisions we make regarding sex, love and relationships. I wasn't always an Obesity Rebel. There have been times in my life that Obesity kicked my ass and suffering from this disease lead me to make some bad decisions in when it came to these things. There were times when I was [...]
In last week's blog, Food Journaling Adds Accountability and Success to Weight Loss we talked about your food journal, why it is important and how to get started with MyFitnessPal, the food journal that I recommend to my clients. This week, I want to talk a little bit more about how your food journal can also be your food prep tool. I cannot say this enough. Plan and prep, plan and prep, plan and prep. Planning [...]
